As
we learn from school and our experience, we, human, are classified as the
social creatures, creatures which cannot stand by themselves. We need other
people’s help, ability, and existence to
fulfill our needs, especially our social needs. Friendship is one of the way to
fulfill it. Friendship is a bond which defines itself and different from others.
Three kind of bond which we generally know are parents-children bond, marriage
bond, and friendship bond. The parents-children bond and marriage bond are clear
to define, it is regulated by law, whether a federal or religious law. What about
friendship? It is not regulated by any law; it is the people involved who
define it, the boundaries, the parameter, etc. Like any other important
aspects in life, friendship bond may also be affected by
many things. It may be affected by the time and space
barrier and the changes of each way of thinking over time.
I am sure that all of
us have at least one best friend, whether when we were a child, teenager, in
school or neighbourhood. For most of the people, friendship bond will lessen as the
time and space barrier grow larger. For example, when you have a childhood
friend, at some time, both of you move to some distant places and haven’t
contacted for years, there are two possible things that will happen in the future regarding
your friendship. The first is your bond will lessen, if you are trying to
forget or even ignore the memories you had had with them. The second, your bond will grow
stronger. I know that it may be confusing, but this happened to some people.
It will grow stronger, if you keep the memories you had had with them and convince yourself that
someday, somewhere, you will meet them again and struggle together to bring back your big childhood dreams into reality. So, time
and space affect friendship bond to two possible results.
We live in the world where everything is constantly moving and changing,
including time and space. As mentioned before, time and space affect friendship
bond. Other than that, it may also affect the people themselves, their each way
of thinking. The way of thinking are regarded to our own experience and how
other people in our surroundings treat us. In other words, it will vary over
time and places. Why would the changes of each way of thinking affect
friendship bond? Because, most of the people will tend to
befriend with the one who is more like them and understand them more than any
other. So, when two best friends
who are separated and live a different life since then are met again, their
friendship bond will grow stronger or even lessen depending on whether he/she
likes the “new” each way of thinking.
In conclusion, we should not think of friendship bond as something
statics, because there are many things which may affect it. I only identify two
of them; time and space barrier and the changes of the way of thinking of the people
involved. Whether they will make the bond stronger or lessen is determined by
us, the people involved in friendship.
-Muhammad Yusril Yuriis
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